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From One Introvert To Another

Calling all introverts

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xcept not literally, because we usually hate talking on the phone. (Or is that just me?). Within the last year, I have come to realise that having a massive circle of friends and being around crowds or at a ton of parties just wasn’t for me anymore. At first, I tried to convince myself that I still liked these things and that it would be weird of me to want to stay in all the time, reading or hanging out with my cat. Eventually thought, I decided I need to be myself. and not worry what anyone else thought. As long as I liked me, who cares right? Being introverted has nothing to do with disliking people, or wanting to be completely and utterly alone. It means different things for everyone. For me, crowds drain the life out of me. So does random small talk all day, with people I barely know. I just prefer my own space where I can sit quietly and do what I love. It’s not that I dislike people in any way, in fact I love meeting new people and learning things about them or making friends. I just need time to re-charge in a way that feels good to me.

What helps you feel your best?

If those things make me – or anyone – a little quirky, then I say it’s all the more reason to embrace it. The people who love you will appreciate you for who you are.

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hen do you feel your best? The most comfortable, or the happiest? Personally, it’s with my cat in my lap writing a blog post, reading on my kindle or even playing the odd video game. (Yes, I am a totally video game junkie. I love that it takes my mind off everything for an hour or two when I feel especially anxious. I’d prefer that over a movie for two hours any day). If those things make me – or anyone – a little quirky, then I say it’s all the more reason to embrace it. The people who love you will appreciate you for who you are.
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our hobbies and interests are just that. Yours. Life is way to short to just do things because you think they are cooler than something else. Do something for the passion and the enjoyment of it, period! If being around tons of people all day or night makes you feel tired and exhausted – don’t do it! Stay home and relax. If I am not listening to what my body needs, I feel especially tired and anxious. I get a little irritable and I just don’t feel good. By doing what makes me feel good, like staying in with a cozy blanket and a hot cup of coffee, then that’s what I’ll do. And you should too.

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  3. aimsysantics says

    I think you have just summed me up in your post! I could spend days not leaving the house just being in my own little world. Although I do also enjoy being out and about people watching too!

    Great post!

    Aimsy xoxo

    https://www.aimsysantics.co.uk

  4. Mykki says

    You summed this up perfectly and I’m so glad you’re embracing your identity as an introvert – I love spending a majority of my time alone writing, reading, watching movies, baking, etc. I feel so at peace and calm and centered when I do things alone. If I’m at my best, I can be more present for the people who matter when I DO spend time with them. 🙂

  6. withcurlsandcocktailsblog says

    I am definitely not an introvert but my boyfriend is and it has been a blessing and curse! I think its so important for us all to remember that we need to do what makes us happy and not fit into what people think we should be doing.

  8. Alexx says

    I’m definitely an introvet! I like to craft or draw while I’m alone. Something about just focusing on something so small and making it turn out the way that’s in your mind!

  10. Sarah D'Anne says

    I love being at home with my mother and my cats. I love staying up late after she goes to bed, just to sit in silence with myself. I don’t mind parties, but after an hour or two, I’m ready to go (I don’t want to get overstimulated).

    As I’ve gotten older, I have seen being an introvert nothing but a blessing. I’m happy you have found what works best for you!

  11. Avery Walts says

    Cheers to you, fellow introvert! It’s been a challenge to me as well to accept that this is who I am and that there’s nothing wrong with it. One of my goals this year is to learn to say no to situations that will put me in unhappy situations just for the sake of pleasing others. Thanks for sharing! I love your aesthetic on here too 🙂

    • Becky says

      That’s an awesome goal! I struggle with that as well. People pleasers syndrome is so real, and I absolutely have it. Thanks for reading love!

  12. Carly says

    Hey. I’m also an introvert and never new there was a name for it, but when I found out I was like Yea, everything adds up now. I also hate talking on the phone, i love having my own space doing what I love too. Love your blog 🙂
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    • Becky says

      Me too, totally! As soon as I found out what Introvert meant I was like oh wow… so thats the term they use to describe people like me. Haha! Thank you so much, and thanks for reading love!

  13. Rachel Hardy says

    I used to feel like I always had to have a ton of friends (I’m an introvert too) but lately I’ve accepted my tiny circle and been happy about it too.

  14. Sunshine with Savannah says

    This is all too real. All I can say is that I’m really grateful that I married someone who is also an introvert, and that we are so happy to hang out together at home. I love going out with excellent friends every once in a while, but I’m mostly content with cuddling up and spending time in the comfort of my home. Thank you for sharing your experience, which looks so similar to so many of us. 🙂

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