You deserve to treat yourself with respect.
Dont Be Afraid Of The Lows.
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really can’t stress this enough. And lately, I’ve been learning (trying) to do the same for myself. The last few months were good (not great) for me for no reason other than I felt un-loveable and essentially worthless. But, there is light at the end of the tunnel! I took a break from social media and started seeing a therapist. (Petition for everyone in the world to have access to talking to someone starts now, it changed my life). Ramblings about myself aside, I cannot stress enough how worthy of self-love whoever is reading this is. When you focus on loving yourself and healing from the inside, you can really find yourself.
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iving into your passions is a lot easier when you’ve got the confidence to do so, wouldn’t you agree? Speaking of passions, when you pour your heart and soul into something but you’re only halfway in (or out), people respond to that. I’ve always thought myself that I can truly feel how someone else is feeling based on the energy I receive from them when I’m reading a post, or talking to them in person. Don’t be afraid of the lows! Embrace them and take them on head-first.
Know that this too, will pass:
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kay okay. The most cliché thing ever, I know. But it’s so true. There have been moments for me where I genuinely thought I would just feel like shit forever. Haven’t we all been there? What matters is how we rise from the ashes. How we can return to ourselves, even better than before. Loving yourself and knowing your own worth are so vital to your being and anyone is capable of it! I think sometimes self-love can be difficult. Or maybe more than sometimes.
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n today’s world, there is so much to compare to and so much to make you feel like you aren’t enough or aren’t doing enough. But you are on your own journey! When I get into the lows I take my phone out of the situation completely and I sit with my thoughts and remind myself that I am enough. I am capable of love and I am worthy of it, too. Removing my cellphone from the situations when I feel extra shitty has really made a difference.
What happens when you begin to love yourself?
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hen you can train your mind to truly believe that you are enough, and that you are comfortable being who you are, it becomes easier and easier. I often find I am so worried what people will think of my photos or my posts, until I really sit down and think about it. And I realise, who the heck cares? Anyone who is going to waste their own time and energy to say they don’t like what you do (when it’s not affecting them in any way) are unhappy somewhere deep in their own soul. Take it with a grain of salt, remind yourself that their own unhappiness does not affect yours and move on.
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esides let’s be honest, anyone who takes the time to say what you are doing is lame when it’s something as simple as an Instagram post really has no meaning to you. People preach self-love and doing what you enjoy until it makes them feel insignificant or like you are above them in some way. Then all of a sudden the tides have turned and you are “self-obsessed” or whatever they may think. Ignore it. Remind yourself that you’ve found happiness in your soul, and make a little wish for them to find it too. You don’t want people in your ship who are making holes anyways. Remind yourself that you’ve found happiness in your soul.
I love this! We are all so worthy of love and it’s so so important to make sure that the other people in your boat are helping you to row and not drilling holes!
Thanks so much for reading! And I couldn’t agree more. It’s so important!
Gosh I love this post! This is such an important topic and I love that you speak about it!
Thank you for reading lovely! I couldn’t agree more on the level of importance!
These are some good things to keep in mind for sure! We all have low points and sometimes it can feel like we’ll never get through them.
Thanks for reading! And yup totally. So true!
This is such a great post. Self-love and self-kindness are so important and these tips and advice are so helpful thank you xx
Thanks for reading lovely! Glad it helped.
I hope you are feeling better!
‘I often find I am so worried what people will think of my photos or my posts, until I really sit down and think about it. And I realise, who the heck cares? Anyone who is going to waste their own time and energy to say they don’t like what you do (when it’s not affecting them in any way) are unhappy somewhere deep in their own soul.’ This really spoke to me, I found myself questioning the same things recently and I thought you know what, I am going to be me for my life whole, if someone doesn’t like that – it’s their problem, not mine.
Most of the time, we just create problems in our head – as long as we are confident, that’s what matters!
Hayley | hayleyxmartin
Aweh Hayley I’m so glad you liked this read and that it resonated! It’s so true though isn’t it? My goal this year is to care way less what “those people” think. It shouldn’t matter anyways!
People use to say that loving yourself is selfish. I think that is why some people struggle with self love including myself. I now know the truth! Thanks for sharing!
You are so worthy of self love! It’s great to be a little selfish sometimes. Thanks for reading 🙂
New blog follower here. I was feeling pretty shitty today because a loved one told me my skin wasn’t beautiful. But reading your post has reminded me people are gonna have their opinions, it’s important for me to love myself first no matter what other think.
Natonya | https:// justnatonya.wordpress.com
I am sorry to hear that, first of all! Sometimes when that happens to me I try to remember that people only do that shit when they have hate or anger in their own hearts. You are worthy of self love in the largest capacity! I hope your day looks up and that the sunshine reminds you of the fact that you are beautiful and amazing and cool and everthing else awesome! *heart emoji because my computer doesnt let me mkae them*
Thanks Becky! This brought tears of joy to my eyes😭. I’m taking a screenshot of this message and saving it to my phone! I appreciate your kind words. Thank you for replying and reaching out to me❤️
Congrats Becky on learning these lessons so early in life. Self-love and acceptance have taken me many years to really take in and feel.
Thanks, and I am still learning as I go! Always room for growth and more self love. Thanks for reading 🙂
Yes, always room for more love… 🙂
superb! Brilliant! Very real post!
I am deeply glad that you are learning to love yourself, because you are so profoundly loved! You are a priceless treasure, created by a loving God with an amazing purpose for your life. And what a beautiful, beautiful smile you have!
Wow, thank you so much! This is so kind and I really enjoyed reading it. Thank you for reading my post!
You are truly welcome, Becky! <3 <3
I’m glad to hear you took these steps and it helped. Good for you. Cheers
Mush wisdom in these thoughts. Have learned I am the source of much of my own misfortune and can also be a friend to myself and value myself. Helps make more sensible choices.
Absolutely
Love this ♥️