Quit making it a competition
When everything you see and do becomes a competition, you rob yourself of happiness a little more each time
Ipersonally really struggle with this issue, and since I’ve owned it and really looked into why I was doing it, I’m learning to harness the shit out of it and make it stop. When everything you see and do becomes a competition, you rob yourself of happiness a little more each time. Competition is healthy and important, but it has its place. Frequently, I was comparing myself to others. Wondering why they were seemingly further ahead than me. Be it with money, a job, school, you name it. I was always trying to buy an outfit I saw on someone else, because I wanted to feel as happy as they looked. I was always searching for what to take in school, so I could have my degree and feel as fulfilled as someone else looked.
But I am here to tell you, we all move at our own pace. You do not need to be successful in the same parts of life that someone else is. It is more important to find success on your own, in your own time. Nobody runs that clock but you. See what others are doing, and use it as fuel, sure — inspiration from other people is always great. But comparing it to your own timeline and then bashing yourself because you aren’t exactly where they are? This can be detrimental and isn’t doing anyone any good. It’s important to self reflect when you find yourself doing these things. Are you unhappy in a certain aspect of your life? Do you have anxiety that you aren’t addressing?
Why it’s not a competition:
You are good enough, and what you are doing is enough. If it makes you feel fulfilled and happy, then there is no need to compare or compete. I’ve said this before, but comparison is the thief of joy. And it’s true. When you are envious and feel like you need to have exactly what everyone else has, you are stealing joyful moments from yourself. You are wasting precious seconds removing something from yourself. When instead, you could be supplying yourself with joy and fulfilment, as well as self love. Take a moment to self reflect and decide what you can work on internally.
Past issues you haven’t wanted to deal with? It really doesn’t matter what battles you face within yourself — we all have our vices. But for me, when I was able to address my own personal issues and learn to love myself, the constant need to compete and be exactly where everyone else was in life, as well as the feeling of “not good enough” when I didn’t have whatever that was, disappeared.
Face the beast, even it seems scary. Once self love becomes an easy practice, competition and comparison comes significantly less. When I was able to realize what I was actually stealing from myself by always needing to compete, I instantly found more room to love and respect myself and my timeline. It’s a work in progress and nothing changes over night, but making those changes is definitely the first step!
It really doesn’t matter what battles you face within yourself — we all have our vices.